The Many Faces of this Author

Talking to yourself is a natural process. That inner dialogue helps you process your thoughts. You may associate talking to yourself with mental weakness or disease processes but there is healthy self-talk. Check this out: Is it normal to talk to yourself?

                      TALK TO YOURSELF

There is a song called “Talk to Myself” by Christopher Williams. (Check it out: Talk To Myself) Those catchy lyrics proclaim that he talks to himself because there is no one to talk to, but I talk to myself because I need to.

Personally, I have a great inner circle. They are very supportive and honest. They make me feel I can do anything even if others doubt me (which I am sure they do, and it is ok). They are not jealous of my successes, and they pour into me with my failures (which I have, and some are just personal goals that I struggle with). This is the reason I focus so much on meaningful relationships and many of my posts will be about you finding your circle. I KNOW YOU SHOULD BE THE SOURCE OF YOUR OWN JOY, but we live in a world with others, and they can invade your joy space if you allow them, so make that space full of more positive people because the negative people are always going to be there.

We all have some negativity in us for someone we do not care for and trust and believe it pours out onto them even when trying to conceal it.  You are the source of someone else’s pain; it may not be intentional but there will always be some water and oil in your life. Your significant other can be your biggest cheerleader or your greatest source of self-doubt. Your friends and family can be your inspiration or your cause for stagnation.

Time to Change Your Thoughts

No one has a perfect life. Think of a person whose life you admire.

Do you admire their wealth, family, following, and personality?

Now understand that the person you admire most has struggles that could be worse than yours. They may have a following but seriously low self-esteem, they may have wealth but poor money management that will lead to debt, and they may have a great personality but no family or lover.

I do not have it all together, I have fears, sad days, self-doubt, and I procrastinate, but I also have my Joy Spot and my Faith and with that, the other negatives are just life experiences.  My goal is to get you to think the same way. YOU ARE WHO YOU WANT TO BE AND WHO YOU ARE IS NOT FOR THE WORLD TO DECIDE.

When you speak to yourself out loud or through internal conversation, you command your own private audience. Unfortunately, you do not always listen to yourself the way you absorb the words of others. We tend to hold on to other people’s thoughts and opinions of us much longer when they are negative.

What you must train yourself to do is listen to the positive speech from your inner dialogue and convert negative dialogue into learning experiences or learning inner conversations. There may be something we can change but that’s a conversation we should have honestly with ourselves.  We cannot stop others from speaking things to us, but we can stop thinking their words into our existence.

We talk to ourselves regularly, but we tend to listen to the negativity and pass over the positive. Check out my vlog (Focus On Your Positives) for an example of how others can take our positives and turn them into negative ones. Disclaimer: This vlog was me stepping out of my comfort zone along with this blog. I thought initially of all the negatives but I spoke the positives into my fears and I stepped out on faith.

Check this out: Focus On Your Positives

Tips to help you step out and do something different as well as how to focus on your positives. You have been talking to yourself about something that you may have wanted to venture out and do, but the fear of failure and sometimes the fear of success is related to how others perceive you. This Blog is my way of proving that you can talk yourself into something and not fear how others perceive you. 

• DO not ACCEPT the thoughts or words of others as your character. 
• You can change your personal perception of yourself by speaking your positive attributes to yourself.  
• Others can help you build a better personality, but they are a reference, not the blueprint.
• Receive all criticism constructively and not personally. Sometimes the very comment that is meant to break you is actually made to grow you.
• Others may feel you need to talk less and smile more but you may need to speak up for yourself more and smile about the fact that you did. (Check this out: Tallk Less Smile More, Just because I love this play),

The next blog will be dedicated to an action step, one of the various ways to work on the new you and find your Joy Spot!

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